MEN HELP ME UNDERSTAND

You have pictures of money flashing! Telling women how much your earnings are in a year! Saying what you can do as far as monetary gifts! Then at the end of your message you state that you’re not looking for a Gold Digger! Then just what the Hell are you looking for, after that advertisement you just displayed? When one advertises, he or she is looking to target a certain group of people, so with that in mind be careful of what you advertise!!! If you don’t want Gold Diggers to leave you notes, or IM you don’t put it out there like that. Just like men say if she’s on here and dressed half naked, and has a screen name like lickem good, deep throat, or come n play, then most likely she wants more then good conversation, we feel the same about you guys! Bottom line is you get what you advertise! And men you guys might find this hard to believe, but most women aren’t on here looking for your money, not trying to get a handout, and not trying to get Sex!! For the most part, just looking to network, or chat with good people! Contrary to popular belief, there are still good women/men on the net and in society that still have good morals and values. So let’s try to stop judging one another by our covers and try to make and honest effort to get to know one another from the inside out, instead of from the outside in!

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Comment by Claude on July 4, 2009 at 8:21pm: There are many good guys out there that do not FLASH. I believe it is true that if you "FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT" you will find success at/in it. Deep down you really know this.

Comment by Turner Davis Jr. on April 14, 2009 at 2:40pm: Monica ok well what does my image advertise..? im a artist working on producing a magazine startin in central florida, im working on my image so what u got 4 me

Comment by David Lindsay on April 6, 2009 at 4:20pm: Monica , and I can agree with your comment to a point. Where we disagree is I am not looking for a gold digger, but I am looing for a mate that can meet me half way and then go beyond. If I would flag money out , it to let you know I have it , and if you have it we can become one. , Now i know it take more than money , but I will acknowledge money is a great tool for the finer things in life.

Comment by borob on March 27, 2009 at 10:40pm: Well said Monica. I could add more, but it would be repetitive.

Comment by AL on March 23, 2009 at 12:07am: that sounds good but it is HARD to find a WOMAN who has anything to OFFER BESIDES SEXXXX. they dont have an income or if they do ,it makes a total ass out of them. men just want to go out sometime and dont have to PAY FOR EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME.....

Comment by Jamil on March 12, 2009 at 4:10pm: The sad thing is that Most Guys(Really most people) don't have a clue who they are beyond appearances and what others have regarded them as superficially.

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Comment by MissFit a.k.a. Charlee on March 4, 2009 at 11:46pm: Monica, baby, you've hit the nail on the head again! I was leaving a comment on a guy buddy's page here at iseecolor just yesterday. Just below mine was a comment from a young woman saying, "I wanna lick you!" Okay, call it snooping but I just HAD to see if she knew him or was just a big freak. Nope, she wasn't from his town. So I probed further and every guy who was in her comments section had received a raunchy comment from her. WHY would a sister wanna do this, not only to herself, but be so disrepectful to any and every man she comes across?

I have 5 brothers so I know for a fact that most men are decent. My own brothers are often stunned by how some women 'throw it out there' like that.

On the other hand, we get what we go after! I know my brothers well enough to know what they need. They're successful but uncomplicated guys who like to eat homecooked soul food then go to bed by 10. Just a nice, sweet, smart homebody--a woman like my mom--would be ideal for each of them. Really. Do they marry such women? NOPE! I'll be honest. They've dumped on such women and kicked em curbside to marry drama queens, street runners, psychos and shopaholic golddiggers.

One brother divorced his embezzling golddigger. He swore he'd never be with another one and immediately bought a Hummer. LOL! Her soon met her successor: a jobless, unwed mom with 2 kids. They all moved in with my brother 3 weeks after he met her, now his life is hell all over again. In the end, he didn't know her well enough or long enough to read her character. He was too busy gazing at her tits and ass.

Unfortuately, this scenario is timeless. All we have to do is look on this website. Whether profiles are plain or pimped like mine, no matter what they write in them, all you need do is look at the GROUPS people join to tell what they're about.

Hate to say it but we pay too may dues in life not to learn who we really are and remain clueless about what they really NEED in their lives to be happy. It's certainly not a great deal of money or the sexiest person as a mate.

People who THINK they know me say they're anxious to see the man who wins my heart. They speculate a lot that he'll be dynamic and handsome. Little do they know I prefer quiet bookworms, geeks, even clumsy dorks. I'VE LEARNED! Men who aren't 'all that' remind me of books (which I love). You can never judge what's inside them by their covers.

Comment by Eric (Kamau) Hunter on March 2, 2009 at 8:59am: True! You have to BE what you want someone else to BE. I'm proud of sisters like you who can think beyond what a man can do for them. Instead, do for you, focus on you, and attract what and who you want.

Comment by Damell on February 25, 2009 at 11:45pm: that s so true. You can get to know someone and it dont have to be sexual just being good friends that you can communicate with some times good enough. because ther is some many bulls--t people out ther men and women. You cant even have a good conversation with. PEACE OF MIND