Bug-a-Boos: Have you been in a relationship with someone who is insecure, possessive, and needy?

You make me wanna throw my pager out the window
Tell MCI to cut the phone poles
Break my lease so I can move
'Cause you a bug a boo, a bug a boo

At some time or another, we all long for a relationship. However, what happens when you realize the relationship isn’t going to work and the other person just cant take no for an answer.

For example, I dated someone whom slashed three of my perfectly good tires right before my eyes, just so I would not go to work. By the time I got back from work (yes, I had to catch the bus) I noticed a fresh set of brand new USED tires sitting proudly on my car. That’s right, three DUSTY, BALD TIRES SITTING ARROGANTLY ON MY NEW CAR! At this point, I knew it was time for me to call the police and take measures that are more drastic!

Have you ever been stalked? If so what was your story?

I hope that you safely retreated out of the situation, but how did you get rid of them?

Did you do the change number and relocate technique? Or were you more forward and told the brotha/sista to get to steppin!

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Comment by SANDRA MAY on November 21, 2009 at 1:49am: I RAN AWAY AT 12 TO DC AND THERE I FOUND ONE. HE WOULD LOCK ME IN THE RENTED ROOM EVERYDAY HE LEFT WITH A PADLOCK ON THE DOOR AND BEAT ME ALMOST EVERYDAY HE CAME HOME. I STARTED CLIMBING OUT THE WINDOW WHEN HE LEFT. THE LANDLORD TOLD HIM ABOUT IT AND THAT WAS ANOTHER FIGHT. THE NEXT ONE THAT SUPPOSIDLY LOVED ME SO MUCH FOLLOWED FOUND OUT WHERE I WAS WHEN I LEFT HIM AND HE KNOCKED ON THE DOOR ONE DAY AND WHEN I OPENED IT HE HIT ME IN THE FACE WITH HIS FIST. I CALLED HE COPS, THEY DI NOTHING AND NEXT HE AND HIS FRIEND KIDNAPPE ME AND MY SISTER WITH A GUN. SHE JUMPED OUT CALLED COPS AND HIS FRIEND RAN WHEN THE COPS STOPPED US. DITCHED THE GUN AND COPS DID NOTHING. 6 MONTHS LATER HE WAS IN PRISON FOR KILLING SOMEONE ELSE. HE HAD THE GUN POINTED AT MY SISTER ABOUT TO PULL THE TRIGGER WHEN THE BUG A BOO TOLD HIM NO AND SPE OFF. I THINK I MUST ATTRACT BUG ABOOS. ANYWAY AM 44 NOW AND HAVE BEEN WITH MY PARTNER 20 YEARS AND THANK GOD HE IS NO BUG A BOO......OR IS HE...LOL

Comment by Gloria on November 20, 2009 at 9:22pm: This is a little off topic, but I think it fits. I had a situation, and I love this man. We broke up and got back in contact with each other. I decided to give it yet another try. This man took my cell phone contacted every man in it. Had me delete all my male contacts from facebook, even cousins and co-workers. Here is the icing on the cake. He became so enraged by what I had been doing while we were broken up that he physically assaulted me. Attacked me after I dozed off to sleep. Needless to say I called the police. Had my cell phone number changed, and am currently waiting to see him in court to get a restraining order. The only thing I can say... WHEN IT IS OVER... LET IT BE OVER! If you are giving your bug a boo mixed messages or the time of day... in the long run, you will find yourself hurt.

Comment by Lenny on November 20, 2009 at 6:14pm: yeah i've had a relationship like that

Comment by robin steve on November 20, 2009 at 6:12pm: I WAS MARRIED TO ONE.I HAVE AN EX SISTER IN LAW WHO IS ONE.

Comment by Gracia on November 20, 2009 at 5:21pm: OH no, had one who was trying to convinced me 2 let go my job & be home 24/7 just for his disposition, lucky f me that was perfect timing 2 losing him & moved on, howerver, dont call it insecurity, but insanity in there's its a big difference.

Comment by CyCy on November 20, 2009 at 2:58pm: I was stalked, it got so bad that the police had to be involved. when i was in tyler and i wouldn't talk to him, he'd get off of his job early sometimes he's been fired because of his absentness. he'd drive all the way to tyler from ft worth just because i wouldn't pick up the phone. he's harrassed my friends if i didn't answer his calls. when i moved to denton, and i told him i didn't want him up there he'd sit outside of my house. he always accused me of sleeping with everyone. i couldn't say hi to a dude without him asking 21 questions. and since he was white and i was black, he had a problem with black men around me and always made comments that i'm not over black men, and that he couldn't satisfy me because he was white and i really wanted a black man. if he heard a man's voice, they must be talkin to me and they must be black. it could be a radio or my cousin, he didn't want anyone around me and thought that everyone was trying to hook me up with black men. he even took my daughter from daycare and had her without my permission. i called the law. i relocated so he couldn't see me or stalk me, i changed my number but recently my dumb brother gave him my number and i also changed my email address cuz he was harrassing me on there too.

Comment by WC2c on November 17, 2009 at 10:07am: It is a shame to many people do not realize that being a STALKER IS A CRIME. To entitle that person a BUG A BOO is to UNDERESTIMATE THE DAMAGE A STALKER CAN DO. Upto and including murdering their victim and/or the victims family and friends. To give this behavior a cute name is to render the behavior as somehow DESIRABLE.

NO CALL THIS FOR WHAT IT IS ....PSYCHO.

Comment by SouljaGirlT on November 16, 2009 at 11:07pm: My stalker is at work..he constantly comes by my office. I had to take it up with HR and dude still comes by he claims just to say hi. My boss was like, you come here again and we are calling the police. Now he leaves notes on my car. WTF!

Comment by Southerngal on November 16, 2009 at 6:24pm: NO...BUG-A-BOOS FOR ME..lol....I know of people that it has happen to and it was crazy ....to the point were the man got shot at by the woman....he had to get behind a tree............and call the police....and the man that can't go to work ...unless the woman wants to go with him...he fix cars.
Also one that the man was looking and listening thur the open window...at the woman talking....... ..rather on the phone or to someone visiting...It some crazy folks out here..lol...

Comment by Beverly on November 16, 2009 at 5:06pm: You have to also know how to spot a potential bug-a-boo. For example, I was exercising by walking at a park one day. A guy was jogging and he stopped me to speak to me. After a brief conversation, I thought he was cool and we exchange phone numbers. I said, "I will give you a call later TONIGHT to see what you are doing and maybe we can possibly go out to eat or something." It was not even an hour later and he was calling me. He called me three times and left a text message before I even left the park that day. I did not respond to his calls or texts and he STILL kept calling. You would think if a person does not respond to your calls or texts, that will let them know you are not interested. Can you say potential bug-a boo! I ended it before it even started.