Forgiveness Leo Buscalglia's Style:
From "Loving Each Other" by Leo Buscalglia:
Of course, forgiving is not an easy process. Our rational mind is not sufficient to instantaneously break through the intricate web of feelings which overcome us when we are wronged. It seems more simple to look for ways to escape our pain. Rather than deal with it, we blame, we accuse, we condemn, we exclude, we damn. Forgiveness can never be realized in an atmosphere of accusation, condemnation, anger and fault finding.
We will only begin to forgive when we can look upon the wrongdoers as ourselves, neither better nor worse. We need to remember that we coexist as mortals in the world, together, the wronged and the wrongdoer, and that, in our common humanity, the situation could readily be reversed...
Emotional and psychological pain are at least as debilitating as physical pain. Few of us will escape these pains in our lifetime. It cannot be avoided. It can only be dealt with. Forgiveness is often the major, if only, out. As David Augberger puts it, "Forgiveness is letting what was, be gone; what will be, come; what is now, be." It is a freeing of self from the past and facing the future wiser, with renewed hope and faith. Forgiveness is often called an unconditional gift of love. This implies not that, "I will forgive you if or when," but, "I will forgive you because I must, if I ever hope to continue to live fully."
Thanks Leo,
Peace,
Lea
Tags: forgiveness, love, peace
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Comment by J Burns-El on March 9, 2009 at 6:26am -
I really enjoyed reading about forgiveness after looking through some old paperwork yesterday evening. Yes holding on to wrongs is definitely debilitating. Yet there is a season for debilitation as there is a season for freedom of debiliation. I'm definitely enjoying the latter. I'm so thankful that these words have to be seen in the actions of those that have eyes of humility.
Salaam. J Burns-El
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Comment by Carolyn on December 4, 2008 at 9:33pm -
With your comment, you challenge us all to be better, stronger, and more committed to evolving into what we were created to be. This is certainly one of the most difficult challenges that any of us will face, to remove our ego just long enough to see the humanity in the other person. I agree with you, Lea. We can not step into our future while holding the past. That sort of gymnastic is a guaranteed trip.
Often, it is the degree of pain we feel that determines our willingness to forgive. Whether the pain is deep or just runs across the surface, we still have to find a way to let it go. Thank you for your thinking.
Have an awesome day tomorrow.
Carolyn
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Comment by Rey O. Harris on November 24, 2008 at 11:40am -
Good Day Lea,
This was a delightful surprise. Leo was one of my favorite motivational speakers. In my training programs I used to quote him often. I have compiled an inspirational book called. "Motivational Morsels". It is in the spirit of Leo and others of his ilk. Thank you again,
I Wish You Enough,
Rey O. Harris PhD.
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